Over the years I have developed a self cultivation routine I use to increase the love energy flowing in my two hearts. I believe women have two hearts. The emotional one centered in a woman's bosom (the love heart) and the passion heart centered in her genitals. The two hearts are connected and I believe a woman feels the greatest sense of completeness when both hearts have continuous flow of energy coming in.I don’t mean to sound too ‘newage’ish. However, I have found my life is the most fulfilling when both my hearts are nurtured and in balance. I have developed a simple system I use almost daily to nurture my two hearts and keep them filled with love and passion. It only takes a few minutes but it has a huge impact on my quality of life and my relationships.
I pick a time and place when I know I won’t be disturbed for 10 minutes or so, usually in the morning. My hubby gets up early most mornings to exercise. Often we’ll have a ‘quickie’ before he leaves. It serves as a nice warm up for him and puts me in the perfect mood for my warming of the two hearts routine. Sometimes I just want to fall asleep after we share orgasms so I will do my heart warming routine later in the day.
My heart warming routine goes something like this: while lying in bed or sitting comfortably I close my eyes, put a big smile on my face (research shows smiling released feel good chemicals in our brains), place my hands over my bosom or love heart and fantasize.
First, I think of things that make me happy. I think of things that give me a warm fuzzy feeling in my love heart. I think of my kitty and the way she purrs when I pet her. I think of my kids and tender moments I’ve had with them. I think of the kindness my hubby shows, the things he does for me and how he makes me feel safe. I know this sounds silly. It’s like I’m singing the “My favorite things” song from the movie Sound of Music. But it works. Don’t knock until you’ve tried it. Sometimes I think about the things I am grateful for and give thanks to God. I you are not particularly religious you can think about how luck you are. The important thing is feel gratitude and joy.
Then I visualize lying in the sun and feeling its warm amber energy. I think of a yellow sunbeam entering my body and filling it with warm loving energy from my head to my toes. If I am having negative thoughts I visualize the energy getting brighter and pushing the negative thoughts out of me.
After doing this for a few minutes I switch to warming my passion heart. I remember to keep smiling, and then I place my hands over my passion heart (my vulva). I feel the warmth of my hands on my nether regions and then begin to fantasize erotic thoughts about my hubby and me. When I feel my juices starting to flow, I reach over to the nightstand and get my ezCOME out of the top drawer where I keep it and insert it into my now wet vagina.
I then go back to fantasizing about my hubby and me while I squeeze the ezCOME using my pelvic muscles. Sometimes I squeeze them lingeringly slow and pretend the ezCOME is my hubby’s penis and I fantasize about driving him crazy with pleasure using my well developed vaginal muscles (which I love doing to him). Sometimes I flutter them like a butterfly’s wings until I am so excited I know it will just take a minute or two of direct stimulation on my clitoris to push me over the edge into orgasm. Often I don’t need any direct stimulation of my clitoris and will climax just from flexing my pelvic muscles. (These spontaneous orgasms started happening after about 8 weeks of using the ezCOME, your results may vary.)
If you are like me you may have a favorite fantasy. Mine usually involves my hubby’s strong tanned hands; one hand is cupping and fondling my breasts and the other is resting upon my vulva. The hand at my breasts begins pleasuring me, expertly palming and tugging my nipples. The stiffening and rise of my nipples it is not my imagination. Down below I imagine my hubby’s middle finger slithering into my cleft to tenderly tease my clitoris with gentle circling motions. In reality it is my own fingers teasing my clit.
While I play this image in my mind, I work my pussy muscles using the ezCOME—squeeze, release, squeeze, release—until I am squirming with passion and the need to release it. Before long my passion overflows into orgasm. Afterward comes the wonderfully sweet afterglow and the feelings of having both my love heart and passion heart full and in balance.
Feelings of love and passion have to be cultivated and nurtured to keep them healthy. The ‘warming the hearts’ routine only takes a few minutes each day, but the benefits of filling your love heart and your passion heart is significant for increased joy in life and your relationships.
